How to handle an insensitive attorney?

I was a legal secretary at one time. I find the only way to get the best, quickest response is to actually go & talk to him. This way no paperwork can be claimed "misplaced" or an email not received, & you'd be looking at him face to face. I would remind him you took the word of your pastor who referred him in the first place in that he would meet you needs & be a responsible person. You are disappointed in his end of things not being expedited as you expected. Especially coming from the one who referred him in the first place. You have retained him for your atty. & you are paying him for the work he is suppose to be doing for you. You also feel if he w/take the time to write to you ex, he w/get more responce out of him than you have been able to. Attorneys are very "independant" type people, & in order to get them moving on things you need to bug the living day lites out of them. This is the ONLY way you are going to get any response from him. They honestly are all alike, so I feel IF you did chg. attys. you in all honesty would just run into the same situations w/him also. My son had a wk. comp. case that took 8 yrs. to settle!!! He kept giving him time, more time, didn't want to bug him, but I told him to keep on him, drive him crazy so to speak & that's the ONLY way he would get any response out of him. After he started calling him twice a wk., he finally got a court date set & all has been finally settled. You cannot "be nice" to them as this w/only get you "lost" in their system & they w/keep putting you at the bottom of the pile because you are not hounding them like the others who get things done as they should be. Sad to say, they truly are a breed of their own. Get mad, get mean, get on him & tell him you WANT ANSWERS...Tell him this has been going on far too long & you need it settled once & for all. He w/work w/your "ex's" atty. & also get him moving. Enuf is enuf. You can't continue to be Ms. Nice Guy so to speak. See if this helps. But in all honesty to you, another atty. is just going to do the same thing, I feel. This is just from my experience w/working w/them. BTW, I also agree you should inform your pastor this atty. isn't the best person to refer folks to. It doesn't make him look that good either. I wish you all the best, Happy Holidays...:)